Make your own decisions
If you always make your own decisions without consulting your wife, she will feel disrespected. Women always want to share everything with their husbands, so for important family matters, husbands need to share with their partners, then both of them discuss together. silver, make decisions on the basis of common consensus. Only then can a happy husband and wife relationship be maintained.
In married life, when there is a problem, if the other person needs to talk or share, you must take the time and have a good attitude to listen. You need to remain sincere in your speech and sincere in your listening and must show your point of view and understanding.
When you talk, it’s important to let the other person understand how much you care. If you listen with an attitude of listening, expecting the story to pass quickly will make the other person feel uncomfortable. If you hear and understand the story, the other person will feel cared for and appreciated your feelings. Like this for a long time, the relationship between two people is getting closer and closer, the love will become more beautiful and sweeter.
For marriage to be a wonderful journey of emotions and experiences, above all, you need to learn to empathize and forgive. Both of you should spend more time together to get to know each other if you want to get married. Another important thing is forgiveness. We all make mistakes from time to time. Therefore, be more tolerant with your other half. To be together has been a long way. Going all the way together is even more arduous.
Never say “sorry wife”
A wife confided that: Once seeing her husband apologizing to his boss for being 10 minutes late, she felt her heart drop. Because I don’t know how many times her husband gathered friends late, but not once did he apologize to his wife. He also did not know how many times he was late for his appointment with his wife, or even once did not come, he did not even apologize once. She feels like her husband doesn’t respect her. Because he doesn’t respect his wife, he automatically does things that are wrong and doesn’t feel guilty…!
Because of the male dignity of men following the patriarchal ideology that respects men and despises women, many people consider apologizing to their wives as humiliating themselves. Many husbands think that they are the head of the family, so the people “under authority” must listen. The wife is one of those subordinates. Even if the husband is wrong, the wife should not argue with her husband, because that will damage the hierarchy in the house. This is considered the “husband and wife” ideology that remains. Most women today are allergic to this patriarchal man.
According to experts, in most marriages, conflicts are caused by men refusing to condescend to apologize to their wives. Refusing to say sorry is actually the most painful way for myself. Because they do not condescend, because they always consider themselves important, men often create distances from their wives. Many husbands see an apology as a sure sign of weakness. They think, “If I apologize, she won’t respect me”. This is actually a very wrong idea.
A man who respects women and is polite to his wife is in fact always the one most respected by women. Apologizing to your wife shows that you are humble and understanding. Sometimes an apology from her husband works like a medicine to heal a woman’s heart. It has a calming effect on the spirits of the wives. Moreover, when a husband apologizes to his wife, it means that they are open and willing to do everything in his woman’s interest to admit the mistake and to correct it.
Conflict between husband and wife creates fatigue for both people, but an apology can resolve all those conflicts. When you apologize to your wife, you are speaking clearly about the love you are giving your wife. That’s how you bring peace, not just to your wife, but to yourself.
Suddenly bringing friends home
Surely, all of us assume that housework is a wife’s duty. But perhaps, this concept has gradually changed, because in modern life, both husband and wife have the obligation to cultivate their married life. Many husbands often like to show off to society, but spontaneously bring their friends home to eat, drink and drink without warning to their wives.
At that time, your wife will not be able to prepare a hearty meal right away, or your wife is upset, perhaps husbands will have a hard time showing it to friends. So, with advance notice, she’ll probably be happy to help you have a comfortable time with your friends.
It’s not because the wife hates her husband’s friends, but this action is making it difficult for her and making her miserable. If the husband loves his wife, he will definitely make plans with his wife in advance, invite friends over to his house, but he will join his wife to start preparing food…
The fact that the husband suddenly drags a bunch of friends home and asks his wife to “make a meal for us” is like treating his wife as a sin and making orders at any time. The wife also needs time to prepare, moreover at that time she may be tired, want to rest, this “beating” action makes every wife angry.
Don’t think that when you get married you are a prince and your wife will obey all your commands. Because, the marriage relationship is built on the voluntariness of both parties. Therefore, both husband and wife are equal in the husband and wife relationship, no one has the right to command anyone. Sure, she’ll make you regret it if you do.
When a husband utters these words, it means that he does not respect his wife, nor does he consider marriage equality an important issue. This type of man is extremely patriarchal, only hurting his wife and children. He always likes to give orders and make his wife follow. This type of man doesn’t care if he’s doing it right or wrong. As long as the wife has to obey, not to argue with herself. This is the kind of selfish, shallow man, women absolutely do not force themselves to live such a miserable life.
Men who hold the attitude of “respecting men and despise women” will bring pressure to their wives. Inherently giving birth to a child is not as important as having a stable wife’s health. A spoiled son is not necessarily equal to a daughter who will later pay filial piety to her parents. Men should never force their wives to give birth to a son, which only proves that they are narrow-minded. If a woman marries a husband like this, it means that they look down on their wife’s efforts.
It doesn’t have to be in big things, this action shows up even in small things like entering a restaurant, no matter what his wife wants to eat, he orders a bunch of food according to his preferences and forces his wife to eat. follow. It is enough to prove that the husband does not love his wife. Because if he loves, he will definitely want to hear what his wife likes to eat and satisfy her so that she can enjoy it.
Share to be free
According to experts, the mentality of men is that when they have a difficult problem, they really need to be alone. They need quiet space and have no need to share. However, the fact that men hide into their “own world” makes women feel extremely insecure. They feel that their husbands do not need them, feel like they are redundant, feel criticized by their husbands, and are not valued. Not being connected to her husband’s problems makes women feel extremely miserable. They fear that, when they do not mean anything to their husbands, the possibility that they will lose their husbands, the possibility that there will be other women to replace them…
Women often do not understand why their husbands withdraw into such a closed and mysterious “airspace”. She just knows you don’t want to talk to her. She knows you’re stressed about work, but you don’t show it. She wonders how to reach you, how to get you out of the mess that she thinks you’re stuck in.
In fact, your wife does not want to invade your “private space”. She simply wants you to open up. She wants to really see you. She wants to feel loved when you share your fears, worries, and troubles. She wants to be someone you share with because the two of you are committed to being that way when you’re married. She has absolutely no intention of trying to correct you. She just wants to listen to you. Therefore, to avoid hurting wives, men should try talking to their wives about what is going on in life. Women like to be shared by their husbands so that they feel confident in their husband’s love for them, not to interfere or find solutions.
So, guys, feel free to talk about your problems, keep sharing, keep connecting… Because just by sharing, your wife will have enough faith in love and intelligence. As a result, wives will become more delicate, sweeter, and love their husbands more. And most importantly, after you share, you’ll feel more free than ever. That’s your goal, isn’t it?
Talking about the ex
Men often like to show off their past, especially their love exploits, but that’s stupid after marriage. You can share these sensitive stories with your close friends. What do you think when you compare your ex with your partner. Your wife may feel sad and disappointed if you talk about your ex, more or less.
Maybe in the heart of that husband there is no longer any problem with his ex-lover, but the fact that he brought it out to narrate, brag, and prove that he was once very attractive to women, he used to love many beautiful women. It is an act like “stabbing a knife in the heart of the wife”. No wife can be indifferent to this bragging of her husband. We all want to forget the past to live in the present, bragging about past love is a way to damage the soul of the other.
Gratitude is the source of good things. On the contrary, ingratitude is a source of suffering and unhappiness. So you have to be grateful for everything that comes into your life. You can say to your husband something like, “Wow, you remember your “great teacher” (meaning your husband’s ex-boyfriend) again. Your great teacher is wonderful. She is wonderful.” But just talking about it here, I definitely won’t bring up old memories, don’t let my husband recall old memories.
The first duty of wives is to avoid investigation, interrogation, name calling, reminding husbands of his ex-lovers. “We don’t investigate, but we also don’t give our husband a chance to tell the story. If my husband mentions his ex’s name, I immediately thank that person. But when my husband started talking about “her”, I immediately had to block it. Block by: Ah, you are a very wonderful person. That person is also very nice. I have to thank that person… and so on and so forth… But for now, I think all of that should be kept to yourself. Well, on behalf of all the women in this world, on behalf of the 3,5 billion women in the world, I take the best care of you!”
Compare wife with mother
Anyone can easily say: “I am a man who loves his wife” but living and doing it right is a completely different thing. A husband who loves his wife will not only speak with his mouth, but also carry out his actions. He will always try to understand his wife and make sure her life is as comfortable as possible.
If you like your mom’s food, enjoy it. If you like your mother’s virtues, there’s nothing wrong with that. Because since childhood, you have felt very familiar with the food, with the qualities of a wonderful woman. There’s nothing wrong when a man likes the food his mother cooks, likes his mother’s personality… Mother is always an ideal model of all men. But, it would be bad for the husband to bring his mother out to compare with his wife. Whatever the wife does, she uses her mother’s standards to evaluate: “I cook this dish not as good as my mother’s”; “I am not as good at this as my mother”; “I am far behind my mother”…
But if you compare your wife to your mother, and ask your wife to do this or that like your mother, she will certainly not be satisfied. Because we are in a new era, an era where men and women are equal. Women also focus on their careers more than our parents’ generation, so they don’t have much time to take care of their families. Therefore, comparing two people in two different periods is indeed quite lame. You also don’t want to be compared to anyone, do you?
A man who is kind, filial to his parents is a very good thing. But being filial to your mother and looking down on your wife is really bad. There are always conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, at such times, the importance of the husband is extremely great. He must know how to judge right and wrong, neither defend his mother nor tolerate his wife. Only then will the marriage be happy. Living with this kind of patriarchal man, women just feel tired. Try to work, earn money, don’t live dependent on men and women.
Criticize the wife’s parents
Never have this thought in your head. After all, they are also people who are ahead of us, and may not be so quick to come up with ways to handle situations correctly. But they are also the creator of your life partner. So of course you have to respect them. Of course you don’t want her to do that to your parents either. Your marriage can fall apart at any time.
No need to argue too much about this, this is clearly a sign of a man who does not love his wife. If he loves and respects his wife, he will definitely respect her whole family. It is unacceptable for a husband to blatantly criticize his wife’s parents. It not only shows that he does not love his wife but also despises his wife’s family.
Women always look at how their husbands treat their wife’s family and treat them similarly to their husband’s family. So before blaming the wife for being unpopular with the husband’s family, the husbands should review their behavior with the wife’s family. You also don’t ask your wife to be filial to your husband’s family while what you treat your wife’s family is not equal to a stranger. How the husband lives with his wife’s house, the wife treats her husband’s family like that. Do not blame your wife for being unfilial, not respecting your husband’s family when you yourself do not consider your wife’s parents as parents, selfishly thinking only of your own family.
Don’t force your wife with sentences like, “It’s also hard for your mother to raise you. You must love my mother!” or “I’m a daughter-in-law, so I have to take care of my mother and make her happy”… That doesn’t make her love your mother any more. On the contrary, each word only made his wife more angry, wanted to oppose and pushed her so isolated in her own house. If you really love her, really want her to see her husband’s family as her own family to treat and behave, first of all, respect her, know how to behave properly and equally between the two. with my family.
How women live with their mother-in-law depends largely on how their husbands treat them. So husbands, remember, if you want your wife to wholeheartedly serve your husband’s parents, you must also respect and be filial to your wife’s parents. Women look at how their husbands treat their family and treat them the same way with their husband’s family? Don’t live in a way of being on the side of contempt and then have to wipe away tears of regret.