Parents expressed that they do not want to cooperate with teachers
The situation is as follows: You are a homeroom teacher, your class has one. When you come to a student who is doing poorly and lacks a sense of discipline, you have reached out to the student’s family for the purpose of collaborating to better educate this student, but Her parents again expressed their unwillingness to cooperate and said: “If the teacher can’t teach him, I can let him transfer to another school or let him drop out of school.” How would you handle this case?
In this situation, you must clearly understand that not all parents understand their role in working with the school to educate their children. They always have the mindset that the responsibility of education is entirely the teacher’s. Before the reaction of parents, it is best that you do not put yourself in an awkward situation, really control your pride, find a way to explain to parents to understand the purpose of meeting with parents. It is not about “announcement” but mainly working together to find ways to help students make better progress. After explaining, please talk frankly about the cause of his shortcomings and propose solutions to overcome.
During the discussion, you should clearly show parents what is the objective cause of the responsibility of the family and the school, and which is the subjective cause that belongs to the personality and morality of the student. At the same time, you should also frankly admit your shortcomings if you have not really fulfilled the responsibilities of a homeroom teacher, that will make parents feel confident. Surely with the right attitude, high sense of responsibility and love for students, you will convince your family to cooperate with the school to teach students to be good people.
Parents beat children in front of teachers
The situation is as follows: There is a student in your class who seriously violates the school’s rules. The BGH has asked you to bring the child home to talk to the parents. But before the teacher could explain everything in detail, the child’s parents stood up and slapped the student repeatedly for “shaming” the family. In the position of this homeroom teacher, how would you handle this situation?
Faced with this awkward situation, you should be calm and tactful. First, you need to find a way to immediately stop the parent’s act of hitting children, then analyze so that parents realize that in educating their children with violence will never bring good results, but sometimes that is also counterproductive. Let the parents be so calm, you just started your story gently, openly.
You must explain to parents that the school always values the role of families in working together to educate students, especially when they make mistakes. Although it may be a student who is not good, or naughty, often violates the rules of the school and class, the school never expects the family to educate him with violence. Because they are at such a young age and for them everything is just beginning, gentleness, kindness, but absolute experimentation will work when they are at fault. Excessive violence or insults only make the situation worse, making them more prone to resistance and stubbornness.
Parents ask for their children to drop out of school
The situation is as follows: In your class, there is a student who studies very poorly, is often late to class, often falls asleep during class, does private work, does not pay attention to the lecture. When you went to see his parents to discuss his learning situation and wanted to work with the family to help him improve, his mother asked him to drop out of school. The reason is because my father died early, I have a younger brother, so my mother wants to let me quit school and stay at home to look after me so that she can go to work to earn money to support the children. In this case, what should you do to help the student?
First, you need to talk more with parents, encourage the family to create all conditions for your child to continue studying. Coordinating with the parent association of the class, school and locality to be able to help his family overcome the immediate difficulties.
If the child’s mother expresses concern that her child is poor, that she will not be able to follow her friends if she goes to school, or if there is no benefit in studying, please be very tactful and tactful and say that she has not studied yet. good, not because he’s bad, but just because he hasn’t had time and hasn’t really focused on his studies. Therefore, students’ families both trust their children and do not have to feel ashamed of their children’s academic results. Please ask your family to create all conditions for your child to focus on studying and you also promise to care and encourage him to study well and improve. You can assign other better students in your tutoring class as well as help that student.
If the student’s family wants him to stay at home to help because of difficult circuTaxances, you should gently encourage the family to let him continue to study for his own future and also because he is too young. You should work with your class, school, and local parent association to help your family overcome this difficulty. You can also encourage the family to send the student’s child to daycare so that the mother can work with peace of mind while the student can continue to attend school.
Students are disciplined, parents ask the homeroom teacher to intervene
The situation is as follows: There’s a student in the class that you’re home of, about to be put on the Disciplinary Committee. The parent of this student who is a key local authority has come to ask you as the homeroom teacher to ask the Disciplinary Committee to take care of and “let go” of this violation. So how do you deal with that parent?
It can be said that this is not a rare phenomenon, the parents of the students are a high position in the locality and of course, they are very influential in the Parents Association of your class, coming to ask the teacher to reduce the crime for you. their children. In this case, it is possible that many teachers will recommend to the parent that they go directly to the principal to express their opinion or accept that they will present the family’s proposal before the meeting of the Disciplinary Committee. However, one piece of advice for teachers is to deal with the following:
First, you should explain to the parent the extent of their child’s violation and that disciplinary action is necessary to educate the child. At the same time, let the parents know that bringing your child’s case to the School Disciplinary Committee is only for the purpose of helping the child improve, showing the child the consequences of a disciplinary violation, to That’s when I realize my mistakes and take responsibility for my wrongdoings. On the other hand, it’s also a good idea to reassure the parent that disciplinary action is not a terrible thing and that you will do your best to support the child if he or she is repentant and determined. correct your mistakes.
On the other hand, you should also subtly change the purpose of this meeting from “ask” to a cooperation to find out the cause of the student’s mistakes and discuss ways to help. Do this with a serious attitude, with a sense of responsibility to your students, and make that exchange open and frank.
But besides that, you also need to be mentally prepared for a situation that is very likely to happen right after that, after being rejected by you, you will be angry with you. However, do not let your will sway, you must be determined not to compromise. You might run into some trouble, but nonetheless you did your part as a homeroom teacher and made sure everyone (including the parent who was rejected) followed. can’t even look at you with disdain.
Parents leave the education of their children to teachers
Situation: When contacting the parent of an individual student, that parent begs you with the phrase “hundreds of thanks to the teacher”. If you were a homeroom teacher, how would you behave at that time?
The homeroom teacher thanked the parents for their trust in themselves, then gently talked about the role and responsibilities of the school, family and society in educating their children. Homeroom teachers do not forget their commitment to work closely with families to help students continuously improve.
Parents do not agree with the school’s policy of organizing half-boarding meals for students
Situation: In a meeting of parents of students at the beginning of the year, there were some people who did not agree with the school’s policy of organizing half-boarding meals for students, due to the reasons of having to pay extra money, expensive childcare conditions at the school. better home.
The question is: As a homeroom teacher, how would you describe your solution to implement the school’s policy of semi-boarding?
- Analyze the effect of organizing a day-boarding at the school (beneficial in terms of health, saving time, money, safety, …)
- Especially, organizing part-boarding will be an important condition to improve the quality of teaching session 2.
- Introduce parents to some quality semi-boarding models inside and outside the province, and at the same time convince parents to support the major policy of the industry.
Parents ask teachers to give their children a break from performing arts
Situation: A parent came to ask for their child to take a break from performing arts because performing arts greatly affects the learning of cultural subjects.
Question: If you are the teacher of that student, how should you answer the parent?
- Praise when parents have a good child who studies well, especially has very good artistic talent, has many social activities, and is loved by teachers and friends. If nurtured early, it will be very developed.
- Analysis for parents: Children’s artistic talent is very important, especially in today’s society, artistic and singing talents easily create opportunities for people to succeed in all aspects.
- Participating in cultural activities in schools is actually a learning and training activity that complements cultural studies.
- The school will arrange a reasonable schedule of activities for the school’s art team, including your child.
Parents make bad comments about co-workers
The situation is as follows: Have a parent come to you in person and say bad things about a colleague who is teaching their child’s class. This parent believes that the other teacher lacks enthusiasm in teaching students, especially the teacher has prejudice and little interest in their children, so their children do not want to go to school. That parent wants to ask their child to come to your class and ask you to keep the story they told you private. In this case, if you are a teacher who is talking with parents, how will you handle it?
Indeed, this is a very delicate and serious situation. That delicate is how to protect the reputation of colleagues and not be misunderstood by colleagues; The serious thing is that if there is really a teacher’s prejudice against the student, it is definitely necessary to take immediate intervention measures so as not to affect the student’s educational path. In front of parents, teachers should find ways to protect colleagues and also remind them that they should not exaggerate and overstate everything, on the other hand, it is also necessary to assess the extent and nature of the incident through the parent’s presentation. parents, so that it is clever to refuse the parents’ request to change classes because it is outside the teacher’s jurisdiction.
It is best for teachers to analyze for parents to understand the responsibility as well as the cooperative relationship between parents and teachers, it is impossible to put all the responsibility on teachers that do not care or teach their children poorly; analysis so that parents know that the arrangement of students by class, and the assignment of class teachers is not under the authority of each teacher. From there, it is recommended that parents directly work with the school board to propose their wishes.