Top 10 Secrets to a Better Conversation

Don’t say what you think, you like to hear. Instead, talk about topics that everyone is interested in or that the person you are communicating with is interested in, if you don’t know what to say, focus on listening and smiling.

Make a comment from time to time to show that you care and have your own opinion (this is active listening in communication).

Let’s practice a natural look, from the clothes to the voice. Many people convey unconvincing stories because their way of speaking is not natural, giving the impression to the other person that they are acting.

A serious attitude is important in persuasion, but it also needs to give it some vibrancy. You can flexibly change your way, not just “stiff” like a log. But do not use the use of limbs to support words: anything too much is not good.

The fact that you have a rich vocabulary to use at the right time, at the right time, to express the right message you need to convey to the communicator is a huge advantage!

Use a Vietnamese dictionary to make sure you understand everything you and the other person are talking about, helping to improve your vocabulary.

Do not talk too much, rambling and not having a specific topic. Using long sentences to express a simple problem also makes the other person tired of you. Learn how to shorten your sentences (short does not mean curt), in return, refine your sentences so that they are true, natural, vivid and closest.

Philosopher Aristone once said: “Those whose minds are short, their words are often long”. So, try to put it as succinctly as possible.

Apply an inverted pyramid structure, provide important information first, if interested, talk more about relevant details.

Intonation is the abruptness of sounds that work together, to some extent, with the emotion and meaning to be expressed. Intonation does not require fluency like music, but it also requires smoothness.

One of the ways to have a smooth intonation is to practice speaking and then record and listen to your own voice so that you can look out for inappropriate pitches. In addition, occasionally singing a favorite tune is also a very effective way to practice intonation.

Body language in communication is also extremely important! Researchers have shown that 90% of communication comes from nonverbal actions.

Pointing your finger at someone while talking has never been positive. Absolutely do not roll your eyes constantly when talking, because that will be considered treacherous and dishonest, do not hide your hands, do not pout, do not sneer. Don’t cross your arms over your chest or cross your arms, as that’s a signal that you don’t want to hear what the other person is saying.

Nose picking is an extremely ungrateful act in communication, no matter how close you are to the person talking, remember!

To have an attractive voice, you must pronounce it clearly. In order to pronounce clearly, one must practice reading a few ten pages of a book a day, reading each word carefully until we are so absorbed in it that in normal conversation we also pronounce each word carefully, which is success. If, when talking to people, you still pronounce words in a hurry and have not completed the words, you must continue to practice.

Your voice doesn’t have to be good, but you must pronounce it correctly and spell it correctly. Moreover, your voice should be just enough to hear, not too loud, nor too small. In a crowded place, you should speak a little louder, because the sound is easily drowned out. Avoid basic spelling mistakes, especially in formal communication.

Make sure you really want to fit in. Or, for example no, if you just want to fit in your family or work place, you should at least have a way of talking or be a good actor!. The basic principle of communication is to avoid “um”, “ah”. Identify and eliminate the habit of repeating a certain word over and over.

Your listeners will also get annoyed when you repeat the words: “you know” (do you want to shout “No, I don’t know this”…) or “know, right, actually is this…”

Knowing how to listen is one of the important factors that make you a good communicator. However, listening is not enough, you also need to learn to be silent.

Don’t talk nonsense regardless of whether the other person listens or not, instead, be quiet and show concern with your eyes. Do not be silent with accompanying gestures such as looking away, yawning, holding your head, rubbing your eyes, folding your arms… Silence is when you feel more about things, better understand the causes. cause – consequence and more importantly, silence is also a way for you to express your feelings to the opposite person. Sometimes, silence is so much more powerful than a flowery, winged word.

This is an extremely important factor, when talking you should look directly into the speaker’s eyes, it shows confidence and focus on what you want to say.

The sincerity that comes from the speaker himself will gradually create timbre and emotiveness. According to Buddhism, the “inspirational character” in the voice is created by “selfless compassion”. People who have a heart of love for all species naturally have an inspiring voice. This is something that cannot be otherwise.

It’s impossible for anyone who doesn’t have compassion but just wants to practice to have a natural or beautiful timbre. When we have selfless love, even though we can’t do anything beneficial for everyone yet, we still carefully guard every word and gesture so as not to upset others. When we interact with someone, we just want that person to be happy and comfortable. Notice the comparison, there are people who are willing to let go of a sentence that hurts others, and a person who only wants to say things that please people, very sincerely. Our sincere desire to make people happy is what gives us an inspiring voice. Therefore, it is often said that the voice represents the inner voice.